I don’t think the message “35-year old is still very young” is useful.
Life is really hard and is contant suffering. You might die at 95 year-old, but you might die tomorrow. Taking responsibilities instead of blaming the world is often the only way to go.
I think taking responsibility is important but it is also easy to take too much responsibility, be it at work, in the personal lives and choices of others, or in you own success - ultimately leading to anxiety and depression.
A concrete example that I think will echo here is the impostor syndrome many engineers face. We know it is technically possible to sit down and grind huge amounts of value in software in a relatively short period, and we believe it so strongly that we feel crushed if we don't do it each and every day.
Life is really hard and is contant suffering. You might die at 95 year-old, but you might die tomorrow. Taking responsibilities instead of blaming the world is often the only way to go.