As someone who was actually, legitimately, very seriously screwed up by my parents... I don't agree. "Screwing up your kids" and "parenting" are not at all synonymous.
Can we please treat this topic with the seriousness it deserves? This dismissal attitude makes me feel physically ill.
You're projecting a bifurcation. "Screwing up your kids" isn't a proposition; it is relative. Every single kid gets "screwed up" in some way (some severe, as you claim you are). The lessons they got taught in life during child and teenage years is their manual for getting themselves fixed afterwards, in order to function in society. If they fail to succeed by themselves, professional help can aid them.
See also Dr. Ingeborg Bosch on Past Reality Integration [1] or this Wikipedia article [2] for an introduction.
> This dismissal attitude makes me feel physically ill
Can we please treat this topic with the seriousness it deserves? This dismissal attitude makes me feel physically ill.