How do you know your suspicions are warranted? It sounds like you could simply be letting people's outward appearance cloud your estimation of who is genuinely interested in a topic.
This attitude is so weird to me. I play in a local poker group with 80 or so regular members. We get all kinds, both genders, an age range from probably 20 to 80, and a diverse mix of races. The only commonality is we all share an interest in the game. We have veteran players and also see new people show up all the time. When a new player happens to also be, for example, a beautiful woman, nobody is going to care as long as she also knows how to play (even knowing how to play is optional, we'll help you learn). In fact, as a player, if you do assume someone is a phony just because they are good looking, that's a pretty reliable way to lose your money at the table.
The only people unwelcome are assholes and people who intend to cheat. Those folks can get lost. I've never felt "suspicious" of someone who wanted to join and have fun, regardless of their appearance.
This attitude is so weird to me. I play in a local poker group with 80 or so regular members. We get all kinds, both genders, an age range from probably 20 to 80, and a diverse mix of races. The only commonality is we all share an interest in the game. We have veteran players and also see new people show up all the time. When a new player happens to also be, for example, a beautiful woman, nobody is going to care as long as she also knows how to play (even knowing how to play is optional, we'll help you learn). In fact, as a player, if you do assume someone is a phony just because they are good looking, that's a pretty reliable way to lose your money at the table.
The only people unwelcome are assholes and people who intend to cheat. Those folks can get lost. I've never felt "suspicious" of someone who wanted to join and have fun, regardless of their appearance.