I know it sounds like hippy-dippy feel good bullshit, but yeah. you need to learn that you deserve to value yourself even if you aren't 'good enough' to meet one (or any) of your goals.

now, expecting others to value you when you repeatedly and consistently fail them is irrational, but you really do need to feel that you have a right to value yourself, no matter what. Self-hatred is simply not an effective way to motivate oneself; I've tried.