For everyone who is wondering why these people act the way they do, the answer is that their actions work some of the time. Otherwise, why would they do it if they continually strike out?
What one person might see as harassment, another might see as an exciting "chase". I've known women who have had guys be very aggressive (it's a fine line) and they were quite taken by it.
This of course is not excusing the behavior whatsoever. If you lack the social skills to see when you've crossed the line, the best approach is avoid the behavior all together.
I don't think this is true in general. When people have a deeply ingrained notion of How X is Supposed to Work behavior can persist through a massive amount of evidence as to its ineffectiveness. Also just because you realize something isn't working doesn't mean you know what you need to alter to get something more effective. A lot of people who fall into the aggressive PUA-adjacent universe respond to their tactics not working by thinking "must have not been aggressive enough".
> For everyone who is wondering why these people act the way they do, the answer is that their actions work some of the time. Otherwise, why would they do it if they continually strike out?
Eehhhh... I don't buy that.
I think some guys just literally have no real idea to create romantic relationships. The best they can come up with is trying to leverage their financial power with shitty pick-up lines.
>Otherwise, why would they do it if they continually strike out?
lol, I know lots of guys who strike out every time. I suspect they repeat behavior because they don't know any better and it's low effort and low risk.
This also "worked" with Ms. Meyer who tolerated being groped, but not because she was "quite taken by it".
But I definitely see your point, though I'd argue that in this kind of position you should use different dating strategies if even at all.
These kind of power dynamics taken to an extreme are for me the biggest reason why incest has to be illegal.
Similar to a parent child relationship, you don't have any common ground for consent with your subordinate.
What one person might see as harassment, another might see as an exciting "chase". I've known women who have had guys be very aggressive (it's a fine line) and they were quite taken by it.
This of course is not excusing the behavior whatsoever. If you lack the social skills to see when you've crossed the line, the best approach is avoid the behavior all together.