You should talk to a therapist. It will affect your career sooner or later, if it hasn't already. You better get help on how to control these thoughts, and more importantly your actions, especially if you sometimes give "eyes" to your coworkers.
I vehemently disagree with that. While I do not know your gender or sexual orientation, I can assume that at some point you've looked at another person and been attracted to them. This can't be controlled because our species' success (before the modern medicine era) is due to our ability to reproduce. I don't see a problem with looking at someone. If it gets to the point of creepily staring for long periods of time, or wanting to act on his thoughts, then he has good reason to see a therapist, but being able to see that someone is attractive while also not wanting to have sex with them is completely normal. I'm a guy and I acknowledge that many of my platonic female friends are very attractive, but I don't want to have sex with them in the same way that I would a wife or girlfriend.
> If it gets to the point of creepily staring for long periods of time, or wanting to act on his thoughts, then he has good reason to see a therapist,
This is what he said, that's why I suggested a therapist. He constantly thinks about having sex with his female coworkers, and the ones that he feels the most attracted to he will give "eyes" to. Then he feels guilty afterwards. These are abnormal reactions. I wasn't talking about YOU, I was talking about HIM.
If you can't get your work done without thinking about having sex with your coworkers, you need to see a therapist.
Ah, it looks like we interpreted his words differently, and I misunderstood what you meant. I assumed that
>I cannot work with a woman without thinking about having sex with her.
meant that he can still get work done with women, but he thinks about having sex with them.
I should also clarify my point "that many of my platonic female friends are very attractive, but I don't want to have sex with them." I'm not saying that the thought never crosses my mind, just that it's not an issue.
About your last sentence, if I apply it to my situation, the first part is true. There has never been a time where I've been with them, but the thought has never crossed my mind, but I value our friendship, so I have no reason to try to act on that. I believe your point is that coworkers are more of an issue than friends in a situation like this, and I completely agree with that, but I just don't think it's necessary to see a therapist until he does anything more than occasionally staring.
He seems obsessed with the problem and and can't cope with the guilt of his own thoughts, he should see a therapist to learn about how to deal with that. To say someone to see a therapist is not an insult! It's mental health, it's fine!
