>So, this shit happens whenever the aggressive, scheming women (or men) see a way to get more for themselves at some seemingly-vulnerable man's (or woman's) expense.
These are people with personality disorders (especially Borderline), who can thrive in environments where incessant lying, gaslighting, and life-ruining accusations are rewarded . The current system lets the people with the least morals float to the top, regardless of their gender. I don't know how to deal with borderlines in situations like this, but it's wrong for people to simply pretend they don't exist.
I've noticed people on HN never really want to discuss why people like the Uber CEO are sexist, and how people like that should be handled (aside from just firing them and forgetting that they exist). Learning about personality disorders can help you understand lots of behavior that was previously unexplainable or baffling, and perhaps even teach you something about yourself if you realize that you have one. The more time I spend in tech, the more I think that the rate of occurrence for them is much higher than in the general population.
I really wish greater awareness of personality disorders was espoused in tech, and that Americans in general took mental health more seriously. I think you could begin to fix a lot of problems that get talked about here by simply having people go to therapy. It wouldn't be a quick fix and it's not guaranteed, but it's better than nothing.
I've noticed people on HN never really want to discuss why people like the Uber CEO are sexist
I don't think it's fair to characterize Travis as sexist without backing it up with evidence. Travis isn't equal to Uber, and I respect him as an entrepreneur. (Maybe I missed an article claiming he was personally involved in some misconduct, though.)
One anecdote that appears occasionally is about an email that Travis sent to the company in 2013, when the company had a few hundred employees:
"Do not have sex with another employee UNLESS a) you have asked that person for that privilege and they have responded with an emphatic ‘YES! I will have sex with you’ AND b) the two (or more) of you do not work in the same chain of command. Yes, that means that Travis will be celibate on this trip,"
Its nature is interpreted as evidence Travis is sexist by some HN commenters.
For what it's worth, I've given that incident a bit of thought. He was speaking to a group of 400 people. Unless we're of the opinion that under no circumstances is it ok for one coworker to have sex with another, establishing clear guidelines seems appropriate. The comment about himself seems more tongue in cheek given the overall tone of the rest of the email: https://pastebin.com/RZJkzQd6
In general, it seems more productive to reserve outrage for those who take advantage of employees or founders by using their position of power.
Sorry, maybe I worded that poorly, but I don't personally believe he's sexist, in fact I don't really know anything about him aside from what I've seen on HN and couldn't really give my opinion one way or the other. I was just making a note on the HN discussions regarding that topic (him being sexist).
These are people with personality disorders (especially Borderline), who can thrive in environments where incessant lying, gaslighting, and life-ruining accusations are rewarded . The current system lets the people with the least morals float to the top, regardless of their gender. I don't know how to deal with borderlines in situations like this, but it's wrong for people to simply pretend they don't exist.
I've noticed people on HN never really want to discuss why people like the Uber CEO are sexist, and how people like that should be handled (aside from just firing them and forgetting that they exist). Learning about personality disorders can help you understand lots of behavior that was previously unexplainable or baffling, and perhaps even teach you something about yourself if you realize that you have one. The more time I spend in tech, the more I think that the rate of occurrence for them is much higher than in the general population.
I really wish greater awareness of personality disorders was espoused in tech, and that Americans in general took mental health more seriously. I think you could begin to fix a lot of problems that get talked about here by simply having people go to therapy. It wouldn't be a quick fix and it's not guaranteed, but it's better than nothing.
Also learning about the drama triangle:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle