The year I took off for paternity leave was simultaneously the greatest ("wow, it's fun spending time with my kid!") and worst ("holy crap, we've been leaving women to deal with this?") thing I've ever done.
I seriously suspect a lot of jabs directed at feminism would die away if more men took paternity leave and used it as directed (and not, say, as a way to goof off for an extended period of time).
A remote working dev has the flexibility to earn a good keep while also letting their partner have the more rigid location and schedule.