I've been an employee of a number of startups. I've bought options quite a few times.
This last startup I worked for always had excuses to not give us the 409a information. After 1.5 years, for other reasons, I felt it was time to move on.
60 days has gone by, and I've been emailing, but no options have come to exercise. I've only got 30 more days as it is mentioned in my contract.
Is there anything that can legally be done?
Also, it would be in your best interest to keep all documentation and call 2 - 3 laws to get a good feel for what they will do on the case.