I would add to this that being "nice" doesn't mean to cave or placate others.
To me it means to try not to act out of malice, hurt, or anger towards others, even when they seem to be acting that way towards you.
You can calmly and rationally explain your position, and hold firm, while trying to avoid negative emotions. Easier said than done, but it can be incredibly powerful.
To me it means to try not to act out of malice, hurt, or anger towards others, even when they seem to be acting that way towards you. You can calmly and rationally explain your position, and hold firm, while trying to avoid negative emotions. Easier said than done, but it can be incredibly powerful.