your whole post definitely does not come across as 'reflections';

netbsd is more suitable for headless/server/embedded than desktop; now you know it first hand ;)

see what people call desktop for a sys admin in unix is the ability to run xterms and ssh without having to remap keys on a standard pc kbd or get into arcane teminal configuration just to do admin tasks. I dont need a desktop (and dont have a desktop) I need working terminal. i figured out my issues but the point stands, xterm ssh from netbsd to debian should not corrupt a terminal or require debugging two dozen possible causes. Have normal defaults. on OpenBSD I never needed to touch terminal settings if I didnt want to same with linux. only netbsd is stuck in 1982 where it is question if bkspace is del or ^H.