I have been dealing with a bad relationship (totally my fault) due to attachment issues (anxious-avoidant) and rOCD as a result of it. Really annoying stuff, pretty much have ended my relationship cause of it.
OCD gang rise up. OCD sucks man, it's so debilitating.
I currently have retroactive jealousy and I feel it slowly destroying my relationship, already affecting my mood and productivity every single day for over a year now.
9 sessions of psychologist so far.
I swear my partner and I are just incompatibility, which sucks because before I knew certain information which triggered me, I was the happiest I was ever been.
I can't talk to my partner about it because she feels personally attacked. I can't talk to my friends about it because they don't understand, and it's simply "get over it" - I would if I could.
It was too good to be true.
Good luck with you rOCD sir, I hope you find peace.
Yeah but it also makes a lot of sense from a talent attraction side. People in cheap areas need less pay to be attracted to work at a company and someone living in a large city will require more to want to work at your company. It sucks a bit from the remote work dream of getting FAANG West Coast salaries while living in the middle of nowhere but that was always a bit of a pipe dream for most people, they can pay you less and still far out pay the local competition, the only way to really get that would be for everyone to adopt remote work as a completely normal thing. Even then though I'd expect salaries to track somewhat with local cost of living.
I think that's a wise decision because it allows you to stay where you are without pushing you into another country just to benefit from lower living costs while having a comparatively high income.
Yeah, to attract people already living in high COL areas you have to pay them well otherwise they'll work local which will track to the living expenses.
But why not move to a higher COL area if you can get the same living style. If you're putting x% of your savings away (this is what COL does) then the person in the higher COL nets more savings.
